Sunday, May 5, 2013

Summmmer

Getting things ready for my consignment booth.  I am starting to focus on shorts and tees and bathing suits.  Summer is super SLOW business-wise and I am hoping by really focusing I can do all right. I am also going to start panning some special vendor events at the store.  I've loosely (and kind of lamely) titled it as the "Summer of Fun" in my head, which doesn't even reference anything specific in what I'm planning.  I always feel unorganized and lacking focus and yet I constantly seem to find myself thinking up or planning some event.  The ideas start out loose and w/o a pattern, like a huge mess of yarn.  Then as the vision becomes stronger, it's like I'm pulling one string, and all the yarn starts tightening up.  It's like the opposite of pulling a string to unravel a sweater.  I pull a string and the sweater takes shape.
Enough weirdness about how my amazing brain works.  For now.  It's Cinco De Mayo and I have been drinking.
 This vintage maxi was a lucky little find.  I actually wasn't sure if it was going to be for me or for the shop.
 But, after I put it on I loved it.
Sometimes the empire waist things don't work so well for me because I have a tummy.  And I'm in my 30s (late 30s, but still...)  Lord help you if your in 30s with a less than flat belly!!!  The "are you expecting" questions. glances, innuendos come fast and furious.  I am going to be honest here:  It's mostly older women who do this!!!  Clearly, this is not all older ladies.  But, ALL my experiences have been such.
Sometimes, when I think about being 50 or 60, I think it will be great because I can just let my tummy be--- and nobody will accuse it of being knocked up!!
I think sometimes it just gets tiring being so over-scrutinized as a woman in general.
Hooking up with Patti at Visible Monday!
Becky
<3 <3 <3

51 comments:

  1. Fabulous dress. And I agree, being scrutinized as a woman is really a pain in the ass. Throw your shoulders back, be proud of how amazing you are, and just announce, "I'm having a litter! Who wants to adopt?" (and for the record, you don't look anything like pregnant!) Thanks for sharing your great look with Visible Monday xoxoxoxo

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  2. Beautiful dress, it's a winner. Hey you look fab!

    blue hue wonderland

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  3. How can older women be so nosy, and so rude?!? You look great, and not pregnant! Good luck with getting some summer events going - sounds like fun!

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  4. You look great. Keep the dress. And have a drink for me!

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  5. I love your dress and you look great! I understand what you're experiencing, but most people tend to suggest I'm much older than I actually am. It's scrutiny either way! I really like your jewelry you're wearing too!

    Alexa

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  6. happy cinco de mayo! cute dress!
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  7. Great idea to keep this dress because it fits so well and I love the print; the mixture of dots and flowers.
    I hope that business take off and I'm with you regarding the over-scrutinizing that women go through; especially when is other women and especially when it can be quite judgmental and nasty.

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  8. Gorgeous dress, and I think it looks fabulous on you. I have avoided empire waists for most of my life because of the "are you expecting" look! It comes with the boobs...people see boobs, they see a hint of a tum...lordy.

    Thank you so much for reading my blog - I really appreciate your sweet comment. Love your blog! Colour - woo!

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  9. Oh, yeah, I'd definitely keep that dress too. You are gorgeous. And the jewellery is perfect. I can't believe women ask you that!! I like your yarn/thought process comparison. Cool image.

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  10. I'm glad you're keeping that dress 'cos it looks gorgeous on you. I can't believe women ask such stupid questions, how bloody rude! xxx

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  11. Someone once taught me once to "take the high road" with rude peeps like that, which throws the question back at them and puts them on the spot and perhaps makes them realilize their rudeness: how about "Why no, why do you ask?" as a response? If they're truly rude buggers, they'll get even ruder, but chances are they'll slink away with red faces. The French are masters of the discreet up-and-down glance at my belly, which is quite pronounced - interestingly it's the 40-50 year old women who are staring at my belly - why?

    I love the dress on you. And I think it's cool that you do events for your shop - they create excitement and newness for shoppers. :) xo

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  12. "It's Cinco De Mayo and I have been drinking" :-)Great! You really have no belly to talk about so it was really an irrelevant question, but I have to tell you about my dear friend. My friend was so tired of worrying over her belly so she decided to "become a bohemian with big dresses" so that she would not have to think about her tummy no more. I believe that was a wise way to deal with something she experienced as a problem and I love her attitude.

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  13. You look great with your new hairstyle and this stunning maxi dress!You have a great figure and your tummy is flat, I don't think anybody should get such rude comments, people should learn to shut up, it's normal when you have little kids to have a bit of extra weight, why they don't get it and avoid to ask stupid questions?
    Love xxxxx

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  14. lovely! would you like to follow each other in gfc and bloglovin? let me know!

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  15. Your brain is amazing as are you. I love this maxi on you- you look so freakin' cool as school- and what a fantastic hair day Cinco de Awesome was for you!

    Good luck on your event AND your shop! I wish for you a very busy and abundant summer! the Citizen Rosebud

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  16. That maxi is definitely a keeper! People can be so rude - they need to learn the difference between their inside voices and outside ones.

    I'm sure you will devise a fabulously fun event, and I hope your consignment booth does well.

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  17. Love the dress ! And you look gorgeous !

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  18. Over-scrutiny, oh yes, don't we women suffer from that, and mostly from other women... Shelley's comment about inside and outside voices made me snort!
    The dress is a BEAUTY! Definitely a keeper, Becky, I'd wear it in a heartbeat, and I think it really suits you. Loving the hair too!
    Keep describing how your brain works, I like that! And good luck with your event planning for the booth, it sounds like fun! xxxx

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  19. becky, the dress is beautiful on you. good luck with the next event. tee;s and shorts perfect for summer. love lucyx

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  20. Super cute maxi dress! I love it on you.
    And you do have an amazing brain...I happen to really like it!

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  21. empire waists are totally out of the question for me. My taataas are waaay too big. The waistband goes ON TOP of my boobs!! Lucky you gettin' to rock the maxi!!

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  22. You should keep this dress if fits you perfectly! Your hair looks super cute today Becky! As far as women asking stupid ass shit like are you expecting, I'd reply next time by saying no I'm not I'm sterile and devastated because of it, thanks for the reminder now I'm going home to off myself! I bet they never say that to another gal again. I think Florida must be a lot like California in that most people are very thin and obsessed with staying that way. I wanna be healthy and look good screw those peeps Becky you look hot!
    Xxoo

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  23. Oh, I love this dress! The white on black reminds me of stars in the night sky.

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  24. Lovely dress on you ... you look tiny and delicate in it!
    Even if you have had a CdeM toast or two.

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  25. That dress is beautiful. I actually have something like this from my youth.. it made me so nostalgic. Good luck on your booth, although curious to know why summer is so slow?

    Lastly, I laughed my ass off at your Jezebel comment LOL.

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  26. That maxi dress looks so lovely. I can´t believe they ask you that. It´s none of their business.

    xx

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  27. This dress is soooo cute on you!! Love it! Hugs from Cali! xx The Golden Girls

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  28. You are stunning in the maxi! Yes, it should be yours and rude comments be gone!

    Thank you so much for your recent comment on SC. It is a privilege to grow old and you're right, not everybody is so lucky.

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  29. You look beautiful and delicate in this dress Becky, don't let rude people bother you. I'm sure some of these rude people do it deliberately as they get some sort of kick out of bringing people down. I just leave it to karma to sort them out! I like hearing how your brain works to bring things together from a loose idea, I think mine gets stuck at the big tangled ball of yarn stage. Good luck with your summer events! xx

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  30. I avoid empire line clothes for the same reason! You look great though, really love your hair, the dress is so pretty. The best ideas usually turn up after drinking or in the middle of the night xxx

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  31. Wow what a lovely maxi, it fits you like a dream! You look amazing! I love the pattern. Have a fab weekend! xx

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  32. The dress looks so wonderful on you and I love, love your new hair.
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  33. Wowee what a gorgeous dress, it looks wonderful on you! My favourite look of yours so far! Dreamy and beautiful in its simplicity, and I love the pattern.

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  34. Lovely dress! I agree with you though. I avoid things that make my tummy look bigger because I am small and haven't actually gotten those questions before. But I do fear them!

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  35. The dress is fabulous!!! It really suits you :)
    Did you see the article I posted on facebook about people being rude about their comments about children? Your remarks just reminded me of it. Ha well, people like being nosy... and unfortunately that's not going to change!
    Hugs xx

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  36. I love the dress, nice color, nice cut, keep it!
    About the tummy issue, people are really stupid to even say something to you - You don't say unless you are sure, i don't understand why people don't think before speaking, but that is human nature i guess -
    Don't worry about it, i would think of a good line to shut the older Ladies up, hahaha!

    Ariane xx

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  37. love this maxi dress and also your blog! It's so nice!!! I follow you!
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  38. love the dress and sunnies! you look gorgeous! xx

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  39. Great sunny dress, love it!


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  40. Gorgeous!

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  41. This is a great looking dress - great cut, fit and the print is marvelous! Definitely keep for yourself!

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  45. Hello Becky! I really love your blog. I just had to finally comment to say hi and that I think you look amazing and have great style!!!:) I just wanted to add another perspective since I don't think many of those women mean to be cruel or put you down.
    Having know some extreme baby lovers over the years, I think there are women who are just excited that they might have another friend to add to the Mommy Club. And, are always searching for them, seeing what they want to see. If you had said yes, they would then want to chat with you for the next hour all about it-they want to be excited for you.;)
    Since I have been married for a long time, these same gals always want to know WHEN I plan to start my family...which can also be considered rude. What if I can't or heaven forbid don't want children. Then I remember...they just want another convert, they LOVE children and forgive them.;)
    So please keep wearing those empires dresses because you look fab in them!!:)

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