Thursday, August 31, 2017

I Can Only Do So Much, So I Do What I Can and I wear t-shirts from the boys department as crop tops sooooooooooo

I miss my mom so much and I regret that I didn't get to see her again before she passed.
When I think of this summer it does not seem good for obvi reasons and was very frustrating, but I did have some small acts of kindness and love that meant so much.

One was from a friend in Florida I've known since the 6th grade----one of my first Florida friends.

It's a vintage postcard of Bok Singing Tower.
Her msg on the back is so sweet and it also reminds me of another v good friend who was married there----unfortunately we are no longer in touch :(
I cried 2nite reading it again. 

I was going back through photos of the past year on my phone looking for old stuff to use since I'm not in the mood for ootd posts and I was noticing the countenance on someone's face was especially hard compared to what it used to be-----I could see the change in the photos.  So weird.  Like scrolling thru time.  I hope the softness  comes back.

Meanwhile, since I look pretty terrible and need a haircut and color, I'll share some of the random pics I found that I don't think I've shared b4.

I've had these jeans since the 90s lolol and they're v western.  My friend Jessica used to sort of laugh at me when I'd where them.  I have a matching sleeveless shirt that I think actually does have a horse or cowboy on it soooooooooo there's that.

In this pic I'm bored in the car taking selfies in ginormous mall kiosk and a vintage 70s disco style shirt that it's going to be cool enuf to wear again.  That turquoise necklace was from my mom <3

Pineapple brooch gifted from HR, CandyMan's bff.  He's v lucky to have a friend like her and I am too, now.  Child's yellow Puma shirt shown here b4.

A little Florida GIF

Some old friends, best friends and brothers up there in the mix.  
A little bit of our hearts are always in Florida with friends & family.
Please note the backwards leather strap Polo hat on Jessie there---looking good!  I needs one lololol

Love & Light, 


This is actually me, tho 

Monday, August 28, 2017

I have no new outfit posts so I'm looking at old haircuts when I was in my mid-30s lolol!!!

Some of you remember when I was blonde!!!!  Sort of a layered blonde and bang sitch.  Mid-30s or so... I'm 41 now.

This was early/mid-30s.  Kind of a red asymmetrical very hardcore bangs sitch.
Wearing a dark floral in this one like Patti talks about on Visible Monday!

Mid-30s again!

I wonder where that shirt is above ^^^  I think I used to wear it all the time.

Did so much work today around the house and doing massive yard work the next 2 days.  I just had all these lists of things to do and I'm tackling them.  Just getting the house sorted after being in Tampa for a week and what-not, leaving in a rush because of things to begin with...  

I really need a trim now and I'm kinda totally broke----I have some hair dye that I'm going to smear all over my head and hope it covers all the grey lol 
I have a tube or so left over from from the $2.99 on sale Sally Beauty Supply run about a month ago. 

Maybe I'll have a new picture soon.  Just not looking like hot stuff lately and not in an ootd or selfie mood.  I think everyone has had those days.  

Love & Light, 

Monday, August 21, 2017

This is about my MOM and probably will be for a while

Life just doesn't stop throwing stuff at u------the good and the bad.

It's still throwing stuff at me of both, but right now my mother passing is just filling me with grief.
Her funeral was yesterday.

Amidst all the love & support, there is still everyone's regular life going on...  All their v important problems.  But, right now, for me and the family, it's just about how much we miss her.
The focus is on her and her impact and life and now death.

With her mother here and as a baby 1951 to 2017.

I adore the little curls, but this short hair cut started looking rough in the pics where it wasn't curled and set!!!  Not shown here, bust saying'...  Took some effort.

These are some others decided to share.  Her brothers & sisters <3 <3 <3

Linking up to Visible Monday because a huge part of the reason I'm so visible is her--so much to her.
I'll def be doing posts in her honor to talk about her.

Love & Light, 

Tuesday, August 15, 2017

Planned Parenthood is Awesome and PinkCheetahVintage and The Wrecking Krew are proud to participate

Yooooooooo, if u r in Asheville then I suggest you come support this event!!!!

I luv how this lady MC is getting involved.  Activism has always been a big part of hip-hop and the MC and DJ community. 
PinkCheetahVintage and The WreckingKrew decided to sponsor an hour gift certificate to Massage Envy to help raise funds for Planned Parenthood and give out the code STEADYREP10 for a 10% discount at the store.

I even like the name 'Planned Parenthood'.  I love the whole idea of planning whether u have a family or not----conscious procreation and/or NOT procreating.  Man, I admire all the people with no children. I have no doubt, that you are probably of higher intelligence and/or at least educated at a higher level---in general.  At least, from what I've seen...  Yeah, I have like 5 kids sooooooooooo there's that.

Here are a few examples of the kids at HR & Jon's house with Ace!!!! (Family/frends)
(They have all been gone for over 2 weeks and we misssssss them!!!!!)

These 5 were all PLANNED by a total of four people at dif times and yet, we still have a rather muddled situation.

I have an immediate family member who is ill and all I want is my whole family together.
My ex-husband and his new girlfriend first introduced these children together as siblings when they started living together as a family.
I think the girls would like to have their brothers with them, but it is clearly complicated.
All we can do is try our hardest to respect the relationships the children have made that were originally the adults' decision.

It's not ez in the modern world, although step-children and step-parents are rather standard in the history of families.
Classics are written about this v common scenario.

For instance!
Cinderella, Snow White, Hansel & Gretel...
There was a common theme throughout.

Be careful what u wish for, r??????

Also, unless u want a mess of childrens like u see above, then please talk about and support Planned Parenthood.

Here I am in HR's vintage vest which I may have posted b4, but it's worth a repeat.
I need to fix these sunnies, tho.  We have am eyeglass repair kit that may work if I can find the earpiece that broke off.


Love & Light,


Visible Monday

Saturday, August 12, 2017

Nightbell Heirloom Hospitality Group with Woman Chef Katie Buttons Just one of the Amazing Dining Experiences Asheville has to Offer

Nightbell is one of the places I was desperate to check out when I first moved to Asheville.  I went with my mom for the first time a few years ago.  It's a fine dining foodie place, but has a super chilled out vibe.

They didn't even flinch when we rolled in straight from the summer streets of AVL and I was totally in vintage cut-offs and open back shirt-----we had the good grace to sit at the bar lolol, but the hostess was extremely inviting and welcoming at 9pm w/o a reservation in the world.

If you're wondering, yes, I'm in platform sandals that make me like 6ft tall or something close, which freaks CandyMan out, so I'll never stop.  And yes, it's totally tru, it's much easier to tell people what to do when you're taller.  I'm serious.  I wore my platforms today in Lowe's and a small boy/girl? little human child actually screamed a little when he looked up at me.  It was awesome. 

I'm 41 years old and I live in Asheville with CandyMan and the rest of this WreckingKrew.  We have 5 kids and 2 dogs. We're actually all previously at one point from Tampa and we are needing a visit back again.  We run The Little House Airbnb and want to share the little gems of places AVL and WAVL (west Asheville) have to offer.  
We r about #successthroughsupport & #smallbusiness & #localbusiness 

What we tasted ;)

The little 2-bite and 3-bite treats and dessert below were all between $4 and $9.  That is extremely reasonable!!!!
WE ARE A BUDGET CONSCIOUS DUO to say the least----we have to make our life affordable., yet still enjoyable.
(Descriptions cut & pasted straight from the website-----photos are ours ;)

Also----this $4 egg is one of my fav things to eat ever. Ever.

“deviled egg” corn sabayon, sunburst smoked trout gravlax**, pimenton, egg cup (gf, tnf)

steak tartare**, dry aged apple brandy beef, feuille de brick cone, smoked horseradish

cream (lf no horseradish cream)

heirloom tomatoes, focaccia, house-made mozzarella, basil, sour peaches (tnf)

No picture!!!!!

peanut pie, blueberry-rye whiskey compote, corn ice cream, goat milk caramel, sweet crème fraîche (tnf)

Everything being so on point, it feels weird to say I was underwhelmed by the dessert.  But, it was still delish.

What I was wearing when the kid squealed at me:

My trippy vintage dress garnered me one compliment at Lowe's to which CandyMan declared it was a 100% return on wearing it lol

DIY house repairs :(

Love & Light,


Not Dead Yet Style

Wednesday, August 9, 2017

They Love Love and Crystals and Stuff lol Beatniks & Hippies Asheville Allen Ginsberg

So, it's fun living in a cool, progressive city.

There are LOTS of women that I've met that totally identify as witches.  V normal here in Asheville.   I like to call myself The Wizard bcuz I attract all the witches lololol
Everybody is vibrating at a higher level, adjusting chakras, basically being just as $hitty as other people everywhere, but we recycle like beasts here, so there's that!!!!!
I just enjoy NOT being the craziest looking mom at the school functions!!!!

On IG in honor of first days of school everywhere!

                             Basement Poetry Corner

In honor of it all, one of my legit fav poems :)


Everything wrong with Asheville in one meme lolol

Tuesday, August 8, 2017

Swimming with Friends and just really grateful to be a part of such an amazing group

When you move to a new city in your mid-life years where you basically don't know anyone-----besides CandyMan and his wife (now ex-wife) at the time (who I honestly barely knew)----you really wonder what it's going to be like to make a new social circle.

I can't even begin to explain how surprised I am and amazed at the friends I've made.  It's not just me.  Real friends meet your friends---like, my old bff SamIAm is now friends with HR, CandyMan, PizzaJon, and on and on and on...  And now this whole group that we just went camping with last weekend.

I don't look perfect in my swimsuit.
I'm 41, I have wrinkles and veins and imperfectly shaved legs and all that fun stuff.
I don't care.
I'm getting in a swimsuit and getting in the water :D

It's so weird to think of him as a boyfriend.  He's the father figure in our beautiful family and I feel like we're married.

lolol ^^^^^

Nothing is perfect all the time, but I am really grateful for the good moments with friends and family----honestly, my group is so good it's really one and the same for me.
Our kids are on vacation with their other parents rn and we miss them so much.

Love & Light,


Not Dead Yet Style
Hat Attack #50

Friday, August 4, 2017

Tuesday, August 1, 2017

Just a Tuesday Work Flow OOTD and SALE post

Trippy pants from personal collection on major SALE here

Pretty sweet, amirate???  

All black errrryting.  It's my mood.  OK, black & white.

Totally used a beauty filter.  
I'm totally over 40 (41).
I'm totally Sadidas.
I'm totally wearing an H&M cheerleader skirt that is def too tight and short for anything considered appropriate. Crop top, fence net pantyhose, jewelry, cute bf :)
We got to see DJ Shadow.  He's been spinning 21 years.  He's a tru artist. 

Love & Light, 


PSA: Breeding is bad for the environment.